The knife and the curse

I was born in Pakistan; we moved to the United States when I was four years old. We moved back to Pakistan when I was seven years old, and we stayed there for about six years. We mostly lived in the city and would often go to our village over the summer break or on holidays. Now in Pakistan the city is completely different from the village. The city is more modernized with public-English speaking schools, gyms and shopping centers, while the villages are underdeveloped. Kids in the villages as young as ten are in charge of herding and milking cows. Instead of attending school they’re forced to fend for their families.

Because I’ve lived in America, in modern Pakistan and in the village I feel like I’m a mixture of all these small little variations. I love my caramel frappes from star bucks, but I also love to sit on straw mats to eat food instead of sitting on tables. I love my air-conditioned room, but I also love sleeping outside under the stars on top of a wooden cot. But sometimes I feel like I don’t fit in anywhere. For my American friends I’m too Pakistani and for my Pakistani friends I’m too American. It’s like I’m just not enough for the people around me. I’m too much or too little of something.

But I remember this one time, during our summer break we went to my dad’s village. We were young and careless. We would play hide and seek, tag, cricket, and any game that required physical exercise.

Often when we played tag, we would hide on our roof-top because that way when someone would come get us we would jump over the railing to our neighbor’s house, from there we would take their stairs and stroll back into our house. I’ve lost count of how many times my grandma has yelled at us, telling us not to go into the neighbor’s house.

There were times when we would dig up the dirt where my grandma had planted trees and a few other plants. One time while scavenging around, we found a revolver buried next to the Guava tree. It belonged to my grandpa. He put it there to hide it but forgot all about it.

One day, before coming to America in 2009 my siblings and cousins buried a knife in the ground as a joke. We forgot all about it. When we went back to Pakistan in 2012 for my eldest cousins wedding, my cousin who resides in Pakistan told us that the knife had caused a huge blunder in the family. We couldn’t take her seriously. How could a buried knife cause so much problems?

This is how the story goes.

My grandma is very superstitious and she believes in black magic. When we left Pakistan, she dug the dirt to plant a new tree, but to her amusement she found a knife. Now she believed that someone in the family had done black magic and burying that knife was part of the ritual. My grandma blamed my aunt and that is how the fight started. My cousins were too scared to confess, but finally they did and my grandma and aunt breathed a sigh of relief.

But it’s so weird how one small thing we did for entertainment caused all this ruckus. It never crossed our minds that something so small could cause a huge fight. My grandma wasn’t right, but she’s lived in the village her whole life and that’s what she’s accustomed too. I can’t blame her. But it’s also something I don’t understand. I guess it’s because I’m not from there but neither am I from here.

22 thoughts on “The knife and the curse

  1. We are just people who have seen more of the world, than just the little bubbles most people seem to live in. So yes, many people don’t really understand. And yes, things like the knife, it is really weird how such things happen. But I mean, I also know way too many people who go after letters and names and then judge according to it. For example, if a music band has a weird name, they think they must be bad people, while in reality the band is pretty nice and they just let their feelings out on stage. Or just have a good time. But you are not alone or “too much” around here. Because you will always meet people who will understand or maybe who you can understand.

    I actually have an uncle who is from Pakistan as well, but I never was there. Some other relatives went there sometimes and of course him and his family, to visit his origins.
    I personally haven’t really been somewhere else, never even entered a plane, nor a big ship.
    But you never know what there is yet to come. 🙂

    Thank you for your story, how life shapes, but memories can last. ❤


  2. Identity is a difficult subject, if uncomplicated and yours is not that. Eventually, you will learn that you can never be enough for another person/s for the simple reasons that others, not even a spouse nor parents can know your soul. It is a lifelong process for you to know it, but it is worth doing. Ultimately, your soul is much more important than your identity. I appreciate your sharing your struggles with us. Dr. Bob

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  3. I think even when living in one place, sometimes you can still feel like don’t belong. But it sounds like you’ve experienced the best of both worlds; The qualities of life that modern luxuries bring you, but also the natural and adventurous elements that seems to be lost with more developed places.

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  4. I totally understand because I don’t belong anywhere either. Most people here recognize that I am British. In Britain I am regarded as a North American and in my head I really don’t know. I’ve lived most of my life in the USA but I have never felt “American”. It’s something I have always longed for, to be able to say “This is where home is.”

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